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3 MORE Ways to Stop Complaining

3 MORE Ways to Stop Complaining

Rev. Jaron S. Green


Breaking up is hard to do – even if and when you’ve invested in and tended to an unhealthy, unrelenting partner for years.  Your partner’s name: Complaint.  You’ve felt so attached that your own identity has been tied to it.  You’re known as, The Complainer (and you may not even know it).  However, why would you stay in a relationship that triggers you to be Debbie Downer or Negative Ned?  The truth is, when you are living on autopilot, you simply forget that you have the power to reinvent yourself.  That is, you can change and develop into the version of yourself that you admire and that others enjoy.  When you’re serious about changing your life, breaking an old habit could take 21 days for the old image to begin to dissolve in your brain, and 66 days to establish its replacement.  During the process, it may be hard to resist, but let’s commit to continue the journey to a complaint-free life with 3 more steps.

  1. Take Responsibility For Your Own LIFE


There are three kinds of people in life: Accusers, Excusers, and Choosers.  Accusers point the finger at others.  They can usually find someone other than themselves to say, “It’s your fault.” Excusers say, “I’m a product of my environment.  It’s not really my fault.”  Choosers are the people that are really successful in life.  They accept responsibility for their own decisions.  They refuse to be addicted to the pain of their past.  They accept life as it happens, and move forward.


In the beginning, when Adam sinned, he accused his wife, Eve, for his shortcoming. Then, he pointed his finger to blame God.  He established what a classic accuser really looks like.  Often times, complaining is just an attempt to blame some other person or some other entity for an obstacle in your path.  Proverbs 19:3 (MSG) says, “People ruin their lives by their own stupidity, so why does God always get blamed?”  Whatever problem you are facing has to be dealt with.  If you have brought the problem on yourself, you need to take responsibility for it.  Legitimate hardships are sometimes par for the course.  You are free to do, to say, and to be whatever you choose in life.  But, stuck isn’t one of your options.  Be an investor in your own progress, and take responsibility for the direction you’re headed in.
  1. Develop An Attitude Of GRATITUDE

    Some of us are CONTROL FREAKS!  We don’t know how to trust God enough to work out His plan and purpose for us simply because we can’t SEE IT.  We don’t know how we fit into it, or what our specific role is.  But, God is big enough to take the bad stuff in life and work it out for our good without our help.  God has a purpose for you and me – and He fits even the bad things in our lives into that purpose for our good. God’s purpose for my life is greater than my problems – so in everything I can give thanks.

    We should develop an attitude of gratitude because we know that God is in control.  He is more powerful than any problem.  He is more faithful than any failure.  He is more true than any trouble I can find myself in.  My God is preeminent over every predicament.  He is more capable than any condition.  He is constantly working for my good in every circumstance.


These facts are the antidote for complaining.  Of course, there are things in life that are not perfect – they are not supposed to be. You are not living in Heaven yet. You are still on earth where things still break and fall apart.  Things get dirty – they wear out – they get holes in them – they get stained – they get ruined, and you have to deal with it.  You can focus on either the negative or the positive – that choice is yours.  Is the cup half empty or half full? It all depends on how you look at it.  You can’t do both!  God is more concerned with your character than He is with your comfort. “In everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”  God is in the process of changing your life.  Develop an attitude of gratitude.


  1. Look For God In Every Situation

    God is always active in your life.  He is there in each and every situation. You may not be aware of it.  However, like the Apostle Paul, I am sure of this, that He who started a good work in you will carry it on to completion.  If you want to conquer complaining, look for God’s hand in all of your situations and circumstances.  What you will realize is that our present troubles are small and won’t last very long.  However, they produce for us a glory that vastly outweighs the rough times we’ve endured.  Be aware.  God is there.

When we complain about circumstances, we’re really saying, “God isn’t big enough to take care of me.”  Positive people can recognize God’s presence, and trust that God is fitting everything into a pattern.  His purpose is greater than your problem. Take a good long look at your faith in God.  He will never leave you.  He will always take care of you.  So, look for God’s hand in your situation.

There are positive results of a complaint-free life.  When you refuse to complain, you change the atmosphere of the world you live in. You become the breath of fresh air in the room.  You stand out because are different than most people.  Not only do you speak positively, you carry a message of hope. You carry the “Good News” in a world that is filled with bad news.  You carry a message of light in a dark world. Our culture needs some good news. It needs someone to bring them a message of hope.  You can help change the world.  Check your attitude.  Stop complaining.  Be positive in a negative world.



“And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.” Romans 8:28 (NKJV)

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